Parental companionship and role models are very important. The first teacher of a child comes from his parents and family. Therefore, family education plays a key role in a person's growth process. But after all, not all parents have received higher education. They have read an article in which only 3% of them have undergraduate education. As parents, the most important and simplest thing is to practice by example. This is what I often tell my friends about moistening things silently family education, but also a subtle intangible education.
Many people understand that education is actually narrow education, such as kindergarten teachers in kindergarten teaching, hand-in-hand teaching children Pinyin, mathematics, singing; primary and secondary school teachers in school to students in Chinese, mathematics, and other disciplines; university teachers to students, these are very obvious. Education.
But when we teach our children how to behave, how to cultivate their courage, sense of responsibility and other qualities, how should we as parents teach them? In fact, many of the reasons are divorced from reality, for children to avoid too vague and too far away, at this time, only parents can lead by example, children can really understand or be affected. In fact, the real process of education begins with a person's birth and lasts for a lifetime, resulting in lasting and profound changes. This is what we often call education in a broad sense. It comes from family, school, society and so on. Dewey in America said that education is life.
Children in childhood imitate very well, parents in front of their children's words and deeds he may be completely copied, so sometimes you see that children have some behavior to be corrected, you first reflect on yourself, whether on a certain occasion at some time they have similar words and deeds? I remember when my daughter was just over one year old, she once saw her sitting on the sofa, lifting one of her legs and putting it on the other leg. She practiced several times over and over again. It dawned on me that she must have seen some of her family members cross their legs in her daily life, and she was learning to cross their legs. Since then, I have paid special attention to my words and deeds. I have never said rude words in my life or in my work. Therefore, since my daughter was born, I have never heard a rude word from her.
Mr. Nie Shengzhe said that excellence is taught, and family education is particularly important. In fact, family education is the basis of whether a person can base himself on society in the future. In terms of the total amount of education in life, the importance of family education accounts for 80%. Family education is not so complicated, that is, labor education, two things, do housework, learn to bear hardships, starting with the education of support.
What really affects children directly is their parents. Especially mothers, because from the moment he lives in your body's uterus, you breathe with him, and you breathe with him until you fall to the ground, and you are with your children all the time. After birth, mothers are also the ones who accompany their babies the most. Mothers'words and deeds directly become children's imitated objects. Therefore, if the parents'words and deeds are appropriate, then your children will be the most direct beneficiaries.
Parents are the first mentors and friends in their children's lives, and they are also the closest people to their children. I have seen a lot of responsible mothers. They are really hard working, taking care of their children's life, living, tutoring their children's homework, and even taking notes for their children. It can be said that nothing is too big or too small. Everything is directly involved in the growth of their children. Some parents, in order to let their children take less detours and tell their children what to do and how to do it, keep nagging, pointing out mistakes, correcting their children and scolding them all the time during the whole process of accompanying them. Finally, both sides are unhappy. The children lack self-confidence and the parents are very tired.
Although children are small, they have self-esteem and their own ideas. It is the duty of all parents to educate their children. The role of parents is not only parents, teachers, but also friends. Only by fully integrating the three, not ignoring children's inner thoughts, not ignoring their feelings and love, can we communicate better if the relationship between the two sides is based on kindness, equality and respect. 。 To do this, parents need to set an example for their children. If you ask him to read and study every day, ask yourself, do you read every day? If you ask your children to play less with mobile phones, you reflect on yourself. Do you like to hold mobile phones every day? If you ask your child not to lie, think about yourself. Have you ever lied to a client or teacher on the phone in front of your child? If you ask your child not to play games, do you often go out to mahjong or something?
If family education is relatively perfect, how can parents work together with kindergartens in the same direction? First of all, we should agree with the educational idea of the kindergarten. When there are uncertainties or confusions, we should ask for help in time. One method can not deal with all children. Instead, a child should use 100 methods to play combination cards with the teacher, so that the rules of home and kindergarten are in accordance with the requirements of the kindergarten and the teacher, and cultivate "self" together. However, speaking English freely and freely goes around the world.